Knowing how to talk dirty to a guy over text can be a huge advantage to a woman to keep her man interested. When you’ve got past the ‘getting to know you’ stage and you’ve started a relationship, talking dirty to your man can send him wild and keep him coming back for more.
Most people think that most men are totally obsessed with sex, but the reality is that by and large, women are just as sexually driven as men. However, many women can find it difficult to express themselves sexually. This may be due to cultural programming, telling women that it’s not okay to be overtly sexual with a guy she likes when it is actually a natural thing to do with your intimate partner or lover.
The following tips will help you talk sexy and naughty with your guy and get him hot for you in no time.
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How To Send Naughty Texts To Your Boyfriend
Forget about Subtlety
Talking dirty is not about using innuendos or being mysterious or subtle. It is a direct, in your face way of talking using many of the words and phrases that your mother told you never to use.
In the early stages o a relationship or when you’re just getting to know a guy you will definitely want to be more discreet, using ambiguities and innuendos to keep him guessing. However, once you’re in a relationship with a guy, there’s nothing wrong with getting down and dirty with your language to help stoke his naughty passion.
Being direct when sexting can really excite a guy. If you blush when you are sending a dirty text, then you’re probably doing it right!
If you are new to sexting, you may find it difficult to send the text at the beginning. One way to overcome this is to start out subtly and build your way up to naughtier texts as you go along. As he plays back with you, you should start to feel more confident to up the raunch factor!
Begin using phrases you are comfortable with and then start to use them in a naughty way. Simply sending a subtle text that lets your lover know that you are thinking erotically about him is a great way to begin.
Use Those Really Naughty Words
When a guy is in a relationship with someone he truly likes, he wants her to be a lady when out in public, but when it comes to the bedroom, he wants her to be able to behave like a porn star with him. A woman who can bring this combination to a guy will be able to keep him interested and satisfied for the long-term.
Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to do or say anything that you do not feel comfortable with, or that goes against your morals. However, if you are sexting then avoid the romantic language and get down to business using dirty words. Remember, sexting is about turning your man on, not romance.
When using the really naughty words it activates a different area of the brain than regular or even romantic. Erotic and sexual language will get your man thinking naughty thoughts and will bring a new dimension into your relationship. You want to make him blush and get excited when he reads your texts.
Tell Him Exactly What You Want to Do to Him
When it comes to sexting, think along the lines of what you find attractive about your man. Do you love the way his butt looks in his favorite pair of jeans? Do his muscles leave you drooling for more?
Tell him exactly what you like, how much he turns you on and what you would like to do with him in the bedroom. Your imagination is your guide to the ultimate sexting experience.
Before you start sexting, put yourself in the right frame of mind and allow yourself to start feeling a little bit of that arousal for yourself, as it will help you to get the right message across.
Tell your man that you want to rip his clothes off and ravish him.
Starting your conversation this way will allow you to begin a sexting conversation and embellish it as you draw him more and more into the conversation.
Tease him and let him know all the ways that you want him to satisfy you when the two of you next meet.
Tell Him What You Want Him to Do to You
Many women never tell their man what they like in the bedroom and how they like it done. Sexting allows you to communicate your deepest darkest fantasies, or at least, opens up a conversation for it.
Tell him how you want him to touch you and exactly what turns you on. Let him know what he needs to do to make you cum.
Most men think they know exactly what a woman likes. Unfortunately, this is often not the case. So if your guy needs a little help or if you are wanting him to do some things to you that he is just not doing then you can take the opportunity to tell him while you’re sexting.
Don’t say everything in the first text. Break it down and send him several teasing texts to get his curiosity going and to keep him wanting more. When you do this, your man will be hornily anticipating your next text, and you will have his full attention.
Sexting is about building arousal and pleasure between the two of you and is a great, fun way to build and strengthen the connection between the two of you. So if you feel the timing is right, and you are comfortable to do so, let him know your deepest, darkest fantasies, including any fetishes that you may enjoy and suggest you try one or two of them out together if you are really wanting to.
When writing out your texts, use graphic language. This will help spur on his imagination and ensure that he is thinking of how to please you while reading your texts. Creativity spurs imagination which is powerful, so let your imagination run wild in your texts.
Guys are generally very visual and most have no problem at all visualising anything sexual. So vividly paint him a picture to drive him crazy for you. One great way to do this is to tell him you are stroking yourself while you’re thinking of him. This can be a huge turn on for most guys and a nice ego massage at the same time.
Respond to His Responses
Do not just send a random dirty text here and there. Instead, create a text and respond scenario. For example, if your man texts you and tells you what he wants to do, urge him on with texts, such as “Oh baby, that feels amazing!”
By encouraging him to continue, you can create a full blown sexual experience using texts. Men agree that this type of sexting is so much better than just a text about a single sexual act.
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Sexting allows you to express yourself freely; however, it also comes with boundaries. Your texts should never be abusive or disrespectful. Sexting is meant to be exciting, fun and enhancing to your relationship. A disrespectful text can be hurtful and should always be avoided.
Talking dirty to a guy over text is a great outlet for you to express yourself and allow you to explore your sexuality. However, it can also lead to expectations and an exploration into new sexual encounters.
When you send your thoughts to your man, and he sends his thoughts to you, you should keep in mind how these expectations can play out in the bedroom. If something is off limits, let your mate know as gently as possible.
All in all, how dirty you talk and how pornographically descriptive your texts are is up to you. Sexting offers a great way to explore your sexuality and further your relationship with your man. When you begin sexting with him, your relationship in the bedroom will blossom in new and exciting ways.
Here are a few more tips to help you with your sexting in this video.